I love how people on here have no problem shipping two heterosexual white boys in fandom, but the second somebody wants to ship a woc with a white dude it’s all “but why can’t they just be friends? why do you have make it into something romantic??”
I am a delena shipper and i keep seeing all this stuff about bamon and i just don't get it. I think people like it cause its opposites attract and they think bonnie makes damon better but i think that's what delena is so could you explain why you and all the other people who ships bamon like it but dont like delena? I'm asking a lot of other people too so i can hear different answers.
Okay you’re the first DE shipper to ask me why I ship Bamon, congrats. Yes, opposites do attract and that could be one of many reasons why people ship Bamon, for me personally that is one but not the major reason.
When it comes to ships its all a matter of perspective. You say that Elena makes Damon into a better person, and I don’t see what you see. What I’ve seen is Elena decline. She went from a person who cared about the people around her, their safety, and most importantly their FEELINGS to only caring about herself. And her level of selfishness only seemed to skyrocket once she and Damon became involved. She was upset that her friends couldn’t tell her and Katherine apart although she seemed to have forgotten that Katherine has impersonated her many times in the past. But yet Stefan and Bonnie had been missing (one dead) for 3 months and it never even registered on her radar because she was having the summer of her life. She only seemed to remember Bonnie “existed” the second a problem popped up and she needed her to fix it. Elena was more concerned about Stefan remembering HER when he suffered from amnesia rather than allowing Damon to fill in the history he and Stefan shared as brothers. She jeopardized Bonnie’s resurrection the 1st time because she thought Stefan and Qetsiyah slept together although she was supposed to be happily in love with Damon, and what her ex decides to go with his genitalia shouldn’t have been a factor to her, but she poked her nose where it didn’t belong. Elena in no way helped bridge the rift between the Sal bros (not saying it was her job) but she certainly didn’t make things better. I can’t lay her poor choices at Damon’s feet because Elena is responsible for her choices. Damon called their relationship toxic, and got on Elena for always defending him, which tells me he wants to be held accountable for his actions and not just given a pass, and only one person springs to mind on who holds Damon accountable, and doesn’t coddle him when he messes up.
I ship Bamon, mainly because I CAN. In my eyes when Bonnie says something to Damon we SEE it have an impact on him in a BETTER light. She tells him whenever he makes a choice someone suffers, and the next instant instead of going about his plan to kill his best friend Alaric he allowed the man to “die with dignity”. When Bonnie tells Damon not to be disrespectful he shuts right on up. Damon humbles himself, remembers to thank Bonnie for her assistance even when he knows he doesn’t deserve it, and when does Damon ever thank anyone? I ship these two because when Bonnie is around Damon she’s not just the sidekick and the amen corner. She becomes fearless, courageous, willing to do whatever it takes to save the day (she encompasses that even when he’s not around, but it gets turned up a notch when he is), and she trusts him whether she wants to admit it or not. i.e. calling on him to hide the coffins from Klaus, keeping Damon abreast of her progress in opening the spelled one, teaching Elena to feed, (though that backfired), reluctantly believing that his plan to bring her back would work.
With Damon we always see him eat his words when it comes to Bonnie. He can proclaim he would let Bonnie die, but yet he does what he can to save her life, and was the only person to come up with a plan to resurrect her. Out of all the people who have died, why would he lift a finger to want to bring Bonnie back? And out of all the reactions to her death, why did it seem to hit him the hardest? Because in his own way he loves her and this love isn’t a product of codependency or a need to be chosen first, and I’ll say Damon isn’t even aware of it and therefore uses Elena as his cover, but his actions when it comes to Bonnie always speak louder than his words.
He claimed to not give a crap about Bonnie, but yet followed Professor Shady Pants around on that island like a gnat just to make sure the man could be trusted to make sure Bonnie wasn’t overwhelmed by Expression. And instead of abandoning Bonnie on the island to be a shoulder of support to Elena, he remained behind to find her.These are just some examples that prove Damon values Bonnie and I want to see this value expand and be reciprocated both ways between them. Out of all the females Damon has encountered, those he respects are very, very few and I would even gander to say he respects Bonnie a lot more than he does Elena in that Bonnie doesn’t have to emotionally manipulate Damon into acting, its automatic. We know that Damon is impulsive when he fears he’s about to lose something, however if Bonnie is around he becomes more methodical, he thinks.
I love Bamon’s energy, chemistry, and synergy and that’s why I ship them. They aren’t best friends, confidants, but its been proven they don’t hate each other.The two of them balance one another out, in my book. It’s not an obsessive need to prove something to one another, to be anything other than as candidly and brutally straightforward as possible.
So in closing, there is a guide called “Guide to Shipping Bamon” written by signalfire15 that all Bamonators pretty much swear by. It’ll pretty much save you the trouble of taking an individual consensus on your search on why people love this ship so much.